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What should I do if I think someone I know has anorexia? |
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If you know someone who has anorexia, you
can help. Follow these steps from the National Eating Disorders Association.
- Set a time to talk. Set aside a time to privately talk about your concerns with
your friend. Be open and honest. Make sure you talk in a place away from
distractions.
- Tell your friend
about your concerns. Tell your friend about
specific times when you were worried about her eating or exercise
behaviors. Explain that you think these things may show a problem that
needs professional help.
- Ask your friend talk
about these concerns. She could talk to a
counselor or doctor who knows about eating issues. If you feel comfortable,
offer to help your friend make an appointment or go with her to her
appointment.
- Avoid conflicts or a
battle of the wills with your friend. If your
friend doesn't admit to a problem, repeat your feelings and the reasons
for them. Be a supportive listener.
- Don't place shame,
blame, or guilt on your friend. Do not use
accusatory "you" statements like, "You just need to eat." Or, "You are
acting irresponsibly." Instead, use "I" statements like, "I'm concerned
about you because you refuse to eat breakfast or lunch." Or, "It makes me
afraid to hear you vomiting."
- Avoid giving simple
solutions. Don't say, "If you'd just
stop, then everything would be fine!"
- Express your
continued support. Remind your friend that you
care and want her to be healthy and happy.
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